Tips For A Good Party - Part 2

Here is Part 2 of my "Tips For A Good Party." I hope this helps.

  1. HIRE PROFESSIONALS WHO YOU TRUST - Enjoy your own wedding. If you hire good people, let them worry about the details. The less stress you have, the more fun you'll have!!

  2. REQUESTS – Bands usually have a certain playlist, but might be able to learn a special song if asked well in advance. DJs usually have large music libraries and can play most requests. Guests enjoy being able to request a song, but the DJ needs to screen the songs played to avoid any hard feelings and to keep the flow of the party going. Another thing to consider is to have a required age to make a request or a limited number of requests. If you have some young folks at your wedding who are used to making many requests at their school dance, they might not understand that what 12-year-olds like might not work well at a party of mixed ages.

Example #1: When cockatils and dinner are over and it is time to dance and party, an easy listening or classical piece really isn’t appropriate. (This is NOT the time to play “A Wedding by The Lake!”) I always had dance sets that would make all ages and musical tastes feel welcome. If something is played that is really offensive, it will kill the dance floor. REMEMBER, IF THEY LEAVE, THEY MAY NEVER COME BACK. People tend to dance more to music they are familiar with.

Example #2: Beware of songs that have people’s names in them. While some friends might think it is funny to bring up past relationships or actions, a wedding is not the time or place. A situation like this could become very uncomfortable or embarrassing.

  1. CLEAN EDITS – I subscribed to a professional record pool that delivered clean edits of current hits to me each month. Even with “clean” edits, the topics of certian songs are not suitable for certian audiences. Do people really listen to all the lyrics? Maybe yes...maybe no. I always played things on the safe side. There are other songs with similar beats that will keep the party going.

  2. ALCOHOL – The choices are: no alcohol (dry wedding), full open bar, open bar for cocktail hour with free beer and wine for dinner, and a total cash bar. I AM IN NO WAY PROMOTING OR DISCOURAGING ALCOHOL USE. Here are some thoughts on the subject.

In my early years as a party entertainer, I was hired to perform at a dry wedding. My customers always received 100 % effort on my part, but what happened really shocked me and taught me a lesson to never have a preconceived notion of how a party will be. It was a group of 150 Mormons...nice people. Let me tell you, from the first note of music, they were out on the dance floor and partied until the end of the reception. Great party!

I think most guests appreciate at least having alcohol available, whether it be free or a cash bar. Years ago, wedding receptions were far more elaborate. Times have certainly changed! Drinking and driving laws are fortunately stricter, and keep us all safer. Party buses have become more popular in recent years. If your guests are staying in a hotel away from the reception site, or if some of your guests want to keep partying after the reception, rent a bus and keep everyone safe.

  1. BE REALISTIC – Your party will be unique! You will be with your family and your friends at a location that you choose. As the old saying goes, you cannot compare apples to oranges. A party of 400 wild and crazy people will be different than a smller group consisting of mostly aunts, uncles and older relatives. They both can be fantastic. They are just different.

  2. INVITE SOME PARTY PEOPLE – In general, people don’t want to be the first ones on the dance floor. What happens if they are the only ones who dance to a particular song? I don’t think anyone wants to do a dance solo. If you invite a few “live wires” who like to dance and help get the party going, others will follow without the fear of being the lone couple on the dance floor.

  3. PARENT DANCES - Once I had a daughter of my own, I dreaded the day I would have to walk her down the aisle and dance the Father – Daughter dance with her. I watched many fathers completely lose their composure. I personally had to tune out songs like “Daddy’s Little Girl” or “Butterfly Kisses.” I didn’t want guests to be wondering why the DJ was getting misty-eyed. Fortunately, my daughter chose “Unforgettable,” which saved the day for me. My advice: keep this song short and positive. Your dad or uncle will thank you for it.

I hope that these ideas give you some insight. (Remember that these tips are just my opinion!)

Now, just RELAX AND HAVE A GREAT TIME!

R.J.

You can also see and downlod the entire article at Wedding Reception Information.

Purchase wedding music HERE!